Marriage.
We've all thought about it. Each one of us. Regardless of what your opinion is on it, or what your gender is, you've thought about it long enough and hard enough to form said opinion. Men have given it more thought than they would care to admit. Yet, it is women who are painted as "trappers" when it comes to marriage. As if men think we're trying to corner them into a proposal, or bully them into a commitment. Even before marriage is even raised as a distinct possibility, in my experience it is men who play "hard to get", men who seem resistant to commitment. I just can't understand why! Maybe some men have such huge egos that they think women are theirs to pick and choose and dismiss? However, my (male) friend reckons the thought of being tied to someone when you're single is what is scary, and what in turn leads to the commitment-phobe attitude. Why is it scary? It's hard to envisage the end when you've barely begun - but surely when you come across someone you like and could love, it's not so scary after all.
It is programmed into (nearly, a few exceptions I'm sure) all of us to find our other half, our soul mate, the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with - so why on earth are women criticised for vocalising this mission?! We're working to a slightly tighter time schedule than men (biological clock etc) but last time I checked, most men didn't want to end up as lonely old bachelors, they want their other half just as much as we want theirs. So is it an image thing? Are they trying to remain aloof and cool? And if that it is the case, when are they going to grow up and stop playing games? Surely we're all a little old for the double bluff / guessing game / I'm-cooler-than-you charade.
Is honesty the best policy?
